Few things are more stressful than difficulties with your partner, and few more rewarding than having a relationship that you feel good about.
Couples therapy is special, complicated, and challenging work for therapists and clients alike. I’ve developed a real fondness for couples work, and consider it to be my specialization – about 75% of my practice is couples at any given time (though I do hold my individual clients near and dear to my heart.)
Couples come in to see me for help with communication, financial issues, time management problems, sex/intimacy, infidelity, or parenting concerns, etc. These are all valid things to bring to therapy and I believe everyone should have support working through these problems.
However, the best couples work allows for you to get underneath the surface and find the common themes that permeate every conflict that you have with one another.
From the thousands of hours that I have sat with couples, I have learned that the pain caused in the couple relationship points to the individual healing that each partner needs to do. If a couple can get into their conflict in a new way, a tremendous about of growth becomes available. I see a vast amount of potential for each individual and for the relationship when this happens.
As a result, your partner who hurt you becomes the person who makes it better. You see your partner and relationship with new eyes, and can bring a renewed level of care to one another.
All that said, I am not in the business of keeping a relationship together at all cost. I support you both, whether you stay together or break up. Therapy can be a good way to figure out the best path forward.
You Are In Each Other’s Care
I work on all levels – mental, physical, emotional – not only to show you what has been happening to cause frustration in your relationship, but also to teach you how to bring your learning home.
I guide my couples to care for one another in a way that feels mutually beneficial and fair to both partners. Sometimes we work on developing a keener emotional sensitivity, and sometimes a new way to greet one another at the end of the day.
My standard couples session is 75-minutes long. This allows more time for material to unfold between partners, and can create more productive work overall.
Extended-Length Sessions Available
I offer sessions that are longer than the typical 75-minute session as sometimes there is a real need to carve out time to discuss or work through something in your relationship. Extended-length sessions are minimum 3 hours (2 h 45 min).
This may be for you if you:
- Travel a long way for therapy / Are coming from out of town
- Work an unusually restrictive schedule that doesn’t enable you to come in weekly
- Have struggles with finding or coordinating childcare
- Need a long session to help you work through a particular struggle
Premarital therapy is wonderful way to look down the road ahead to glimpse how your relationship might handle the curves that life throws your way. It can help to strengthen your bond, and therefore relieve the pressure associated with your big day.
Whether or not you’re getting married, most people come to couples therapy when it feels “too late.” Preventative couples treatment can work wonders.
I’ve dedicated myself to ongoing, advanced training in couples work. I studied PACT therapy for four years with founder Stan Tatkin, and have done extensive post-graduate consultation in couples work. I also use Gottman Method Couples Therapy in my treatment of couples, having completed the Level 1 Training.
I work with couples of all kinds. All are welcome.